Sunday, October 03, 2004
~ What's the deal about getting married?? ~
10:13:00 pm
Can somebody tell me, do I have got the face that I'm gonna get married soon? Haha... Oh gosh... Today, I went to the Malay Wedding & Hari Raya Fair at Singapore Expo and both me and my sis got bombarded with pamphlets on the wedding stuffs... Some just handed them normally, some were like so 'trying to pull us aside'... Haha... If I had told them my real age, I guessed that they would not believe it... Oh well...
But on a serious note, getting married is all the way at the back of my mind... I don't wanna settle down so soon... There's still so many things that I wanna achieve that I wanna do alone... Nothing to stop me, nothing to hold me back... I don't see the need why I should settle down early... Call me a '
high achiever' or what-so-ever... But it's better to have dreams and goals rather than just to be 'stagnant' there, doing nothing... But I know that at the end of the day, we can only plan but only God decides... So my plan is: I would only want to settle down at least 6-8 years from now... *Hey! That's not too bad right??*... Until I have got what I want, I would
NEVER settle down...
One more thing, the divorce rates of young Malay couples in Singapore are quite on the high side now... Yeah, I'm quite sceptical... Marriage based on love ALONE hardly works... You see, marriage will not survive without money, career, what-so-ever... I'm not saying that you should marry for money... No... But do you think you can live without money?? Well, maybe it's possible if it's not in Singapore but here, nah... I doubt so... Yeah, initially they can say,
"Our marriage can survive on love... It's okay if we don't have money... We can always work it out later..." Harhar... Then what are you going to eat? What are you going to live on? What are you going to wear? Are you going to keep running back to your parents' house when in fact, you're already MARRIED?!?! Well, somebody or anybody, you can try to prove me wrong... But till then, my mindset will always remain this way... Marriage based on LOVE ALONE will never work...
written, NaDiaH eRNiYaNTi
